I Left Something BehindMonday, October 03, 2016
Bad memories. Easy to say, hard to do..., but what's good about negative past experiences? There are lessons that can be learned, maybe there was a good point but for the most part, leaving the pain behind is a good thing. Sometimes it takes a long time to get past a bad memory, but in the end we heal faster if we can somehow process what happened and with The Lord's help move beyond it.
Toxic people. This one speaks to me personally. I was married to my first husband for a few short months and the latter part was spent taking care of and trying to make him as comfortable as possible as he was dying. His in-laws helped but years after he passed away, the relationship became so strained that moving away from them and getting on my own was critical. I won't go into details, but let's just say that sometimes you have to cut the umbilical cord. This also applies to bad romantic ties and/or so-called friends.
Climate change. There are places where you just can't live in. Case in point, for me I had to move from Chicago where I was raised because the temps would constantly make my tonsils swell and I would have to go into the hospital. My dentist told me one visit that if I could get into a warmer, dryer climate he felt I would grow out of the condition. He did not want to take my tonsils out and for that I'm grateful because I was able to move to Atlanta, and it indeed fixed the problem.
Career choice. Sometimes, we take a job that turns out to be a nightmare and we have to quit or maybe we are wrongfully let go. One day we got a notice that our whole department was being eliminated and for no good reason. We were given four months to find another job which is almost unheard of nowadays. Still, the shock and the pain of looking for another job was not what I wanted. Little did I know that God was setting me up to own my business from home. There are times when you don't ask questions, you just follow His leading.
Growing Up. Bullying has become so widespread in schools with some horrific and catastrophic endings. I think we've all experienced this to some degree. Being able to get through the high schooling where I went through this was a miracle and when I graduated, immediately I felt relief and decided to leave town to live with my grandparents and go to college there. Beginning again with a new fresh start helped to overcome the nightmarish years of being bullied.
Leaving the negative behind is essential and necessary in order to look forward. Someone once said:
"You can't go forward if you're looking back."
I think it truly means that if you don't move on, your life will never be satisfying and fulfilling. You won't get the healing you need and your outlook on the world will always be pessimistic. The Bible says in Matthew 5:45, "it rains on the just and the unjust." In other words, life happens to us all. It's how we deal with it that makes the difference...it's really 10% life and 80% how we handle life.
And I know you might say to me, "but you don't know what I've been through." And you're right! I don't. All I know is what I've been through and without the help of Jesus, there's no telling where I'd be...I can take a pretty good guess though! He is the one that will heal our hurts and give us the strength and courage to go on. If you don't know Him as your Savior and Lord, I urge you to give your life to Him today. Read more in my faith story here.