What to do when I feel the Walls are Closing In

Ever had a bad day or a bad week? It's easy to bounce back but how a bad year? Or even a few bad years? How does one come back to normal?

When I went through four deaths in my immediate family, all within 1 to 2 years of each other, I thought my whole world had fallen apart. I didn't have time to catch my breath before the next tragedy was upon me. I knew a few years after my first husband's death (he was the 4th in my list), I needed to seek help.

But sometimes it's not a tragedy that makes us feel we're backed against the wall, it can just be a life change, ex., having a baby, moving cross country, or starting a new career, etc.

I'll share with you a few of my tips that helped me. Granted, I'm not a doctor or counselor, so if you're having severe depression and/or suicide thoughts, I urge you to seek professional help. Here's my list:

  • Take the necessary time to grieve. This is important if you're dealing with a death of a loved one. We need the time to cry, to remember, and to say goodbye. And each of us grieves differently. But with that said, try not to let the grief prolong or take control over you. Long-term grieving could be the sign of a serious condition.
  • Don't isolate yourself. This one was hard for me, but I had to make myself get out of the house and get amongst other people. Even if just to have lunch with a girlfriend, believe me it helps the healing process and cuts down on the anxiety.
  • Talk to God. I don't mean to put this 3rd on the list, it's very important to do. Because it is through Jesus that He will hear our broken hearts, touch our fears, and helps us along. Find a good and uplifting scripture and say it aloud every day. The heart will follow the words we say.

  • Get involved. I think it is good to go to some social functions even if you're uncomfortable in certain settings like I am. But, doing this helped get my mind off my feelings for awhile + it felt good to help someone else.
  • Take a coffee break. I say find a place in the house to just sit down and take a break. I suggest sitting outdoors or near a window so you can be near nature. 
  • Treat yourself. Do something special for you and it could be as simple as getting an ice-cream sundae or even taking a weekend cruise. Maybe even doing something you've never done before but always wanted to do. 
  • Talking to a friend. Talking about my feelings was essential, because I was on the brink of a nervous breakdown. It so helped to have a friend who just listened to me and allow me to get all my emotions out. And praying together was also essential. It is a good thing to have someone in your corner who loves and cares about you.
I also sought professional help from my pastor and his wife back in Florida. I knew that I was grieving a long time and I couldn't seem to come out of the depression. But, but seeking their help I was able to make steps forward.

The key is to try to get in a calm frame of mind and stay there. The thing is our lives can change at any moment and we have to realize that sometimes we need the help of someone outside ourselves. That's why Jesus gives us His spirit to enable us to do what we could never do for ourselves. He gives us friends to go side by side through this journey with, and He gives us professionals that can help through medicine, dietary and nutritional assistance, and through discussions.

Also, one final tip is getting exercise. Don't want to forget that! Just a 15-minute walk everyday will do your mind and body good.

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